Menopause and sex - the truth - Does it suck

Menopause & Sex – 

Sex Sucks After Menopause—Here’s the truth

With menopause, the ovaries stop making estrogen, which can cause your vagina to become dry and less elastic or “stretchy.” Fortunately, there are a number of solutions to suit you.

Here are the 9 facts about menopause and sex

Truth #1: Your Vagina Is Not Going to Shrivel Up Like a Prune

While the vagina does go through some changes during menopause due to loss of estrogen, much of the changes that happen are undetectable to the eye. In other words, there’s no such thing as “shriveling,” and you most certainly won’t look like a prune. 

Even better news: Since blood flow to the vagina lessens after menopause, consider having sex to keep it at its best. The act of having intercourse stimulates blood flow to the vagina and keeps it healthy.

 

Truth #2: Invest in a Good Lubricant
One of the realities of sex after menopause is vaginal dryness. It happens to almost every woman. Lubrication is key!! If you’ve never had to use lubricant before, don’t be shy about starting! 

 

Truth #3: Your Body Image May Decline. 
A lot of the changes that happen during menopause aren’t just physical, they’re mental as well. Menopause can change the way that women think about their bodies and their sexuality, and it can also affect their self-esteem. What can you do about it? Try little things, such as playing sexy music and dressing up, to boost your sexual self-confidence. 

 

Truth #4: You Are Still at Risk for Sexually Transmitted Diseases
Many postmenopausal women don’t realize that they are still at risk of HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases, and therefore don’t concern themselves about using condoms because they are no longer worried about pregnancy. Remember, you can still get STDs!

 

Truth #5: You May Have to Work a Little Harder for an Orgasm 
Don’t let that get you down, you might have to try a little hard. Just remember, you can’t compete with the memory of your younger self. Fifty isn’t the new 20, it’s being 50 and loving every aspect of who you are and your breadth of experience.

 

Truth #6: Your Sex Drive Might Go Down…or Up
Menopause can mean different things for different people. And while some may experience a decrease in sex drive, other women find that with the right mindset, their sex drive may actually increase. For some women, there is a burst of adrenaline that can encourage you to try new things, change your mindset and live through your 50s, 60s and beyond with vigor and an adventurous mindset.

 

Truth #7: Your Vaginal Walls May Thin a Bit
One of the biggest issues with sex after menopause is that declining estrogen levels can lead to thinning of the vaginal walls. This, in combination with dryness, can contribute to making sex more painful. You can talk to your doctor about estrogen creams and therapies to help with painful sex.

 

Truth #8: Exercise May Help Rev Up Your Sex Drive
I think of sex drive and function as part of holistic health. If you are unhealthy physically or emotionally, sex drive will certainly suffer. Having energy from a healthy diet and regular exercise, along with good sleep and mental health, are key ingredients in a healthy sex drive.

 

Truth #9: Your Sex Life Probably Won’t Change Dramatically
Here’s some comforting news: The best predictor of having a good sex life after menopause is having a good sex life before menopause. Women who are happy with their premenopausal sex life are a lot more likely to be able to maintain that satisfaction post menopause.



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